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Being Truly Present Though we hear it over and over each year, that the time, love, and
energy we share with others is most valuable, we so often get caught up in the
consumerism and craziness that this time of year encourages in our world. Don’t take the bait. Check
out this message and video for inspiration to stay focused on what
truly matters most: God’s Presence and our presence.
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Thanksgiving Redo As some of you may recall, Kevin and I managed to miss not one, not two, but three different Thanksgiving dinners this year because we were sick. We have some wonderful friends who didn’t get to celebrate Turkey Day together with the traditional fare. Laura and her husband Jeff hosted a Thanksgiving dinner at their home this past Monday evening that was absolutely delicious, positively delightful, and at times, downright hilarious. Okay, so the food was delectable, but the company made for some unbridled laughter. Thanks, God, for friends who have become family!
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Music, Signs, and Saying Goodbye Wednesday morning, I took Vivi to the daycare where Laura, a friend of mine I first met when I was in fifth grade at St. Mary School many years ago who now goes to the same parish we attend, works so we could watch her last concert with the kids there before she moves on to other pursuits. She was fighting back tears as she said goodbye to her students and their parents. hough we had to slip out before we got to give her a hug, she stopped by on her way home to let us know how much our presence had meant to her. She said she also really appreciated that I understand how difficult goodbyes can be, especially when they involve children you’ve come to care for deeply.
This is an excerpt from Laura’s FB status that evening: “… I was reminded recently…that teaching is so very personal. I am the vessel to inspire thinking and learning and questions. I offer myself to my kids. Regardless of their age or the material we are exploring together, it is a personal journey. And I find that the more vulnerable, honest and present I am, the more I risk embarrassment... the more memorable and successful the learning.”
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To Listen and Be Someone
who understands… The gifts of active listening, genuine concern, and true
compassion are some of the most valuable ones we can offer one another. I have a hard time describing how loved I
feel when someone cares enough to listen to what I’m thinking and feeling, asks
questions, clarifies, and shows that they want to walk with me even when my
journey is leading me through a dark valley or a foggy forest. Lord, help us to be better listeners, so that
You are able to work in and through us to love others and bring forth the light
and hope of Your Presence within them.
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Excellent Advent Advice
Reflection Series
Part II: Seek Him Who Seeks You
Part III: Hold on to Hope
Part IV: Celebrate the Season
Part V: Rejoice and Be Glad! “Sometimes life is pure joy!” is what’s written on one of the mugs at my mom’s house with a drawing of Snoopy dancing on the front. When I was a baby, my Godmother Marcy decided I looked a bit like Snoopy’s fine feathered sidekick, Woodstock, because my hair would stick straight up, so that was one of my nicknames back then. We had some really fun times as kids.
When I think of pure, unbridled joy, I often think of children at play, singing, dancing, running, laughing, exploring nature…
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Santa Claus Is Coming
to Town? A couple weekends ago our
priest gave a sermon that included a reflection on the lyrics of the seasonal
song he likes the least: “Santa Claus is Coming to Town.” He doesn’t have a problem with the concept of
Santa, who of course was inspired by Saint Nicholas, but he does find some
verses of the well-known song to be a rather misleading.
“He’s making a list
and checking it twice; He’s gonna find out who’s naughty and nice…He sees you when you’re sleeping. He knows when you’re awake.
He knows if you’ve been bad or good, so be good for goodness’ sake.
Oh, you better watch out. You better not cry. You better not pout, I’m telling you why…”
Upon closer
examination, this seemingly inane song, sounds rather creepy. Do we really want kids thinking that some
stalker Santa is watching their every move? Does it make sense to make a bigger
deal over having our kids go sit on some stranger’s lap and tell him what we
want for Christmas than to marvel at the circumstances and love implied by
Christ’s birth? Yikes, let’s hope not!
An article titled
“The
Flawed Theology of Naughty and Nice Lists,” by Amy Henry is an interesting
look at the role of Santa, God, and children’s behavior reflect what parents
teach and how kids perceive things. Interestingly enough, I spent many years thinking of God as more of a harsh judge or stalker Santa making a list of everything I did wrong. I’m grateful that our God is a just God, but also the One who is love and mercy itself. If someone’s going to watch my every move, then I’d prefer it be someone who loves me unconditionally.
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O Christmas Tree, O Christmas Tree! Last
night, we gathered at my mom’s house to enjoy
one of our favorite home-cooked meals as a family, then decorate the Christmas tree. This year Mom and Theresa were the only ones
who went to get the tree. Yet again, we
have a really nice live tree decorated with little colored lights. With Christmas music playing and while
sipping on cups of hot tea, we began pulling out the ornaments from a number of
boxes. Our favorites to put on the tree
are those we’ve made over the years, store bought ones that we’ve hung on our
tree since we were little, and those with a certain sentimental value. Mom brought out a few of the Christmas photo
collages she’d made a while back. For
me, seeing the pictures surfaced some of the more difficult memories I have from
Christmas past. Suffice it to say that
we rarely, if ever, had a Hallmark holiday.
Our family’s been through quite a lot over the years, yet some of our most
treasured traditions have remained the same.
What are your favorite memories of
celebrating Christmas when you were a kid?
Who’s someone for whom the holidays might be lonely or particularly
difficult this year? What will you do to
bring them some holiday cheer?